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  1. Burnout is not just something that be associated with your career, it can happen to any part of your life and it's also possible to feel burnt out from motherhood.  Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged stress and can affect anyone.  Burnout can impact your mental health and lead to depression, anxiety disorders and other serious conditions.  It is unfortunately incredibly common in teachers, but how do you tell if you're experiencing it?  Here are five ways to tell if you might be experiencing burnout:

    1. Chronic Fatigue

    Beyond the tiredness of night feeds do you struggle getting out of bed in the morning? Chronic fatigue is one of the most common symptoms of burnout. It's not just about feeling sleepy; it's more like an overwhelming sense of exhaustion that doesn't go away even with rest.    If your fatigue seems unrelated to any underlying medical condition like sleep apnea or chronic fatigue syndrome and has been ongoing for weeks or months despite sleeping well each night then it may be related with burnout and it might be worth talking to your GP.

    2. Lack Of Motivation

    Do things that once excited you now seem tedious? Have tasks become mundane even when they were previously interesting? A lack of motivation is another sign that could indicate an individual is experiencing burnouts.There are moments where we lose interest in activities we once enjoyed due various reasons but if this continues over time then something serious than mere boredom should be considered as a possibility.

    3. Difficulty Concentrating

    Burnouts can disturb cognitive functions which leads us find concentration challenging.Even simple tasks require more effort,distractibility increases resulting in difficulty focusing on work.This often leads decreased productivity which further aggravates our mood.The brain finds itself unable comprehend information at the same pace as before which leads to frustration and agitation.

    4. Mood Swings

    Burnouts affect our behavior patterns leading us to have mood swings.We may find ourselves becoming more irritable,angry and anxious even when the situation does not warrant it.There are also instances of feeling down or depressed due to a lack of interest in daily activities that once brought joy leading us down a path of negativity.

    5. Feeling Detached

    Over time, burnout can lead individuals become detached.  This means that they feel disconnected from projects they once enjoyed or relatioships with which they previously valued and this can lead to feelings of isolation.

    The Bottom Line

    If you're noticing any combination of these symptoms,it could be time take a step back and assess your mental health.Taking breaks, self-care routines such as exercise, meditation or therapy can help turn around the effects caused by burnout.  A healthy body needs both physical and mental well-being so if you suspect something isn't right seek assistance immediately.Speak with family, friends, your partner or a professional who will support on this journey towards betterment .Don't let burnout rob you of your life x

     

  2. While milestones can be a useful guide for what to expect during the first year, every baby is completely different so they're not an exhaustive list of what "should" be happening for your baby at specific times. They can be helpful to know roughly what to expect and when and remember you can always chat to your health visitor, childrens' center or GP if you're concerned.  Milestones often take the form of physical milestones as well as cognitive and social milestones.

    1 Month:
    - Responds to sound
    - Can briefly lift head, often to help find a breast to latch on and feed
    - Can recognise your voice

    2 Months:
    - Begins to smile
    - Can follow a moving object with their eyes
    - Can make cooing sounds

    3 Months:
    - Can hold head up for longer periods
    - Has discovered their hands and can grasp and shake toys
    - Begins babbling

    4 Months:
    - Some babies may start to roll over, although this can come later for other babies too
    - Begins putting hands in mouth
    - Begins to laugh

    5 Months:
    - Can sit with support
    - Begins to show object permanence
    - Begins to imitate sounds

    6 Months:
    - Can sit without support
    - Begins teething
    - Begins to recognize faces

    7 Months:
    - Begins to crawl
    - Can pass objects from one hand to the other
    - Begins to understand "no"

    8 Months:
    - Begins pulling themselves up to stand
    - Starts to develop separation anxiety
    - Can say simple words like "mama" or "dada"

    9 Months:
    - Begins to "cruise" along furniture
    - Understands object permanence
    - Begins to point at objects

    10 Months:
    - Can walk with support
    - Begins to develop pincer grasp
    - Starts to wave goodbye

    11 Months:
    - Starts to stand unassisted
    - Begins to develop sense of humor
    - Begins to understand cause and effect

    12 Months:
    - May begin taking a few steps unaided
    - Begins to use simple gestures like waving
    - Starts to say simple phrases like "bye-bye"

     

  3. Baby's first Christmas - hotMaMa breastfeeding clothing
     
    Your first Christmas as a family makes the festive season extra special, we've listed a few ideas to think about adding to your Christmas this year!
     
    New traditions
    This might be the year you start new traditions as a family that you'll continue for years to come. Perhaps it's a special trip to take or a local festive event. Chat to your partner about things you'd both like to do as a family over the festive season. 
     
    See the lights
    Wrap up warm and take a wintry walk to visit some local Christmas light displays. Your baby will be enchanted by the bright contrasting colours and glowing colours. 
     
    Christmas crafts and keepsakes
    Perfect as a keepsake for yourself or as a sentential gift for the grandparents. There are lots of ideas online but you can't go wrong making your own footprint Christmas cards. Paint their feet and splodge them on a piece of card, depending on the colour of paint you use you can embellish them to look like any Christmas animal, reindee, snowmen and penguin are great festive ideas. Your baby will love the sensory experience of having the cool paint applied to their skin and you get a gorgeous footprint to look back on and say things like "I can't believe how tiny they were" if your baby is older you can try handprints too although little ones have a habit of curling up their fingers so footprints tend to have a much higher success rate!
     
    Take a family photo
    I bet your phone is filled with photos of your little one but how many family photos do you have? With family gatherings and parties aplenty make the most of those extra pairs of hands and get someone to snap a your first family Christmas photo.
     
    Novelty outfits
    Perhaps the marmite of the list as a novelty Christmas outfit tends to divide the crowd you'll either love it or hate it! If you love a novelty Christmas outfit you'll find almost every kind of outfit available for your little one from full on Christmas costumes to garments with a more subtle Christmas print. If you're looking to break yourself in slowly to Christmas clothing for your little one try a novelty bib or hat!
     
    Create a wish list
    All of a sudden people will be asking you what they should get your little one for Christmas. Having a few ideas to hand can be really useful, people often love being directed to a specific toy or item as it makes life easier for them plus it reduces the chance of you ending up with duplicate items. 
     
     
    Don't be afraid to keep it simple
    Your extended family will likely go overboard on presents for your little one, you might find this especially true if this is the first grandchild in the family. Don't feel pressured to do the same, after all your little one won't remember this year at all. Perhaps just choose something small or sentimental from yourself, maybe a carefully chosen soft toy or a special book you could write a message to your little one in the inside cover to remember this first milestone. 
     
    Enjoy it!
    Christmas can also be stressful, as a new mum don't forget to be kind to yourself. Our festive blog post from last year covers lots of tips for surviving the festive season as a breastfeeding mum. Read it here.
  4. Christmas shopping has ramped up in the last couple of weeks, I'm posting our your orders as usual throughout December.  If you're ordering something you'd like before Christmas then have a look at the last post dates below.  Please note these are guidelines, once I've passed on your order to Royal Mail I can't control the speed of delivery and it is possible there may still be some delays (Royal Mail has been particularly overwhelmed this year).  I always appreciate all of your support, regardless of the time of year so if you are thinking of buying something as a gift then please order earlier to make sure your parcel is with you in good time.  

    hotMaMa breastfeeding clothes - Christmas post dates

  5. hotMaMa breastfeeding clothes

     

    Would you like to join our family? 

    hotMaMa is a small family business but we're looking to add to our team! We would love breastfeeding mums just like yout to become brand reps who can work with us from now until January 31st 2023 ðŸŒˆ

    What you'll get
    🌟A substantial personal discount code, perfect if you're looking to buy for yourself or get started with your Christmas shopping!
    🌟A discount code for you to pass on to friends and family

    What we need from you
    🌟 A genuine love for our products, particularly our range of breastfeeding clothes
    🌟A willingness to support us and engage with us on social media (by liking and/or commenting on our posts)
    🌟To take clear photographs of yourself wearing our products and share these on your social media regularly
    🌟To allow us to use your photos for our website, social media and marketing

    Interested?
    Drop us an email to [email protected]
    Let us know your social media handles and why you'd like to work with us.  The number of followers you have is not important, we want to work with people who are genuinely interested in supporting a small family business and can take good quality photos. 

    Applications will close on Friday the 4th November and successful applicants will be contacted and announced shortly after.

    T&C’s
    Public accounts only
    Brand Reps and discount codes will run to the end of January 2023
    Please only apply if you are not already an ambassador or rep for a similar companies
    Entries must be 18 years of age or older.

  6. Breastfeeding glossary  

    A quick round up of some essential breastfeeding terms, perfect for new breastfeeding mums: 

     

    Areola 

    The dark, round area that surrounds your nipple. 

     

    Blocked milk ducts 

    When the milk ducts become clogged or blocked and milk is unable to flow freely. This condition may lead to mastitis if left unresolved. 

     

    Breast pump 

    A specially designed machine that draws breast milk from the breast using suction. There are a few different types of breast pumps available: 

    • Manual or electric 

    • Single or double – so you can pump one or two breasts at a time 

    • Cord-free or plugin 

    • Commercial or hospital grade 

     

    Breast pads 

    Small absorbent pads that can be tucked inside a bra to help absorb any leaked breast milk to prevent this seeping through to your top. You can buy disposable or reusable breast pads, have a look at our reusable bamboo ones here. 

     

    Colostrum 

    A thick, creamy, yellow substance that is produced by the breast post birth and for the first 3 or so days after the baby is born. This is the baby’s first feed/s and is jam packed with valuable nutrients and immune boosting enzymes designed to give the baby the best start in life. 

     

    Cluster feeding 

    When your baby wants a lot of food in a short amount of time. Usually occurs prior to a growth spurt. 

     

    Engorgement 

    When the breast becomes sore, swollen and feel very firm. This is a result of the breasts being overfull. This can occur at any time during breastfeeding; most often within the 36 hours after delivery when milk supply is being established or when mums first wake up in the morning if their babies don’t feed at night 

     

    Expressing 

    When you pump or hand express to produce breast milk. 

     

    Feeding on demand 

    Baby is fed when they are hungry. Feeding is not timed to a clock or specific schedule, but to your baby’s appetite. 

     

    Flange 

    If you’ve been using a breast pump you might have heard of this one. It fits over your nipple and areola to form a seal, helping to pull milk through your milk ducts and out your nipple. 

     

    Foremilk 

    This is the first milk released by the breast at the beginning of every feed. This milk is much more watery and will quench baby’s thirst. 

     

    Fourth Trimester 

    The 12-week period immediately after you have your baby. Not everyone has heard of it, but every mother and their newborn baby will go through it. It is a time of great physical and emotional change as your baby adjusts to being outside the womb, and you adjust to your new life as a mum. 

     

    Hind milk 

    This is the milk the breast produces during the middle of the feed. It is much thicker and richer and contains the beneficial nutrients and fats that baby needs to develop and grow. 

     

    Lactation 

    The secretion of breastmilk. 

     

    Lactation consultant  

    A trained professional who specialises in breastfeeding support. 

     

    Lanolin 

    Extracted from the wool of sheep, this cream has soothing, moisturizing and healing properties and is often used to help ease painful nipples after breastfeeding. 

     

    Latch 

    This is the attachment of your baby's mouth to your breast in order to feed. A good latch is important for comfortable and efficient feeding. 

     

    La Leche League 

    Breastfeeding support group 

     

    Liquid gold 

    A nickname for breastmilk given because of the high concentration of nutrients contained in it. 

     

    Let down 

    This is the initial sensation felt when the milk is released from the breast. Sometimes you can feel it (occasionally it may be painful) and sometimes you can’t. 

     

    Mastitis 

    A painful infection in the breast caused by blocked milk ducts. A woman can become very unwell and suffer from flu-like symptoms and a rash and should seek medical assistance. 

     

    Milk blister 

    When a blocked duct appears close to the skin on your nipple and cells form over the top of it making a bubble or a blister. 

     

    Nip lash 

    When your baby gets distracted and turns his head to look around but he still has your nipple in his mouth and he clamps down so it doesn’t fall out but stretches your nipple and areola area. 

     

    Nipple shield 

    A protective plastic cup used to shield the nipple when the baby breastfeeds. Some women use it to aid in protecting the nipple against damage caused by breastfeeding in the early weeks. 

     

    Overactive Let-Down

    A forceful ejection of milk from the breasts during feeding that may cause issues while breastfeeding. 

     

    Oxytocin 

    Hormone that is released from your brain when you breastfeed. Oxytocin is also known as the ‘love’ or ‘feel good’ hormone. Oxytocin is important for creating a bond with your baby, decreasing pain and stress in both parent and baby, and helping you recover from childbirth. 

     

    Reflux 

    Infant reflux occurs when food backs up (refluxes) from a baby's stomach, causing the baby to spit up. Sometimes called gastroesophageal reflux (GER) 

     

    Rooting 

    The natural instinct of a newborn to try to seek out the breast. You baby will snuffle around your chest looking for milk. 

     

    Tandem breastfeeding 

    When a mother breastfeeds two children at once. 

     

    Thrush 

    Thrush is a yeast fungus that often flares up in babies. A possible sign is white patches in your baby’s mouth and fussiness that makes feeding difficult. You and your baby will likely both need to be treated with antifungal medication for thrush since you can pass it back and forth. 

     

    Tongue tie 

    A condition where the tissue connecting the baby’s tongue to the floor of the mouth is short and tight. This can restrict a baby’s breastfeeding ability as they may not be able to properly latch. It can be difficult to see if your baby has a tongue tie yourself so it’s worth talking to a lactation consultant to advise on this. 

     

    Weaning  

    When a baby is weaned from its mothers breast milk and introduced to solid foods.